Dating & Marriage

Start by asking whether the person is wise, foolish or evil. Draw the wise close, love and forgive the foolish with some boundaries, and put strong boundaries around the evil.

The Bible never mentions it directly, so it's not explicitly a sin. But lust is a sin, and that is directly connected to masturbation.

Divorce is wrong, except in cases of affairs, abandonment and abuse. Remarriage should only happen after a biblical divorce. But once you're married, that marriage is legitimate, so you shouldn't get divorced again.

Leave and cleave. You're a new family now, with a new culture. Stay connected to your parents, but your spouse and your home come first.

You can affair-proof your marriage by fearing God, loving your spouse and setting boundaries.

Sex is a good gift designed for one man and one woman in a lifelong marriage. God isn't after our fun; He cares about our flourishing.

You can. I've been there. Bring it into the light, cut off access, pray for self-control and deal with what's underneath.

Every time the Bible talks about sex between two men or two women, it calls it sin. Being tempted isn't a sin, and God's standard for sex is the same for every one of us.

Look at their character, not just your chemistry. Throw out the wish list, ask the hard questions, and when someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

Slow enough that you know who they are before you're attached to how they make you feel.

Learn contentment while praying for what's next. You can enjoy the season you're in while asking God to send you someone to marry.

Because engaged isn't married. God's design for sex has never been "the person you love" or "the person you're going to marry." It's your spouse.

No. The Bible never says you're incomplete without "the one." Instead of searching for a soulmate, become the spouse God wants you to be, and if you're married, you married the right one.

Being tempted isn't a sin, but the Bible is clear that acting on same-sex desire is. You can follow Jesus with same-sex attraction the same way every Christian follows Him: by fighting sin, not by renaming it.